Use your perfectionism to upgrade your life
“Perfectionist? Me, don’t think so”
Maybe some of you think like that when you read the title
“Perfectionist… My draining feature”
Maybe some of you reacted like that
And I am here you connect with all of you. I like to observe people’s reactions, deduce their actions and thinking structure.
I realized that even the most non-perfectionist people have some controlling attitude in some cases. Life has binaries, we are shaping in front of them. One person can be a perfectionist in their career life as others hold this attitude toward love affairs. Without observing your attitudes, without describing and understanding what is perfectionism for you; you barely continue your life with unawareness. Do not aware of a tool that can upgrade your life.
Another type of people (me also including this type:)) is the one who accepts he/she is perfectionist but regards it as a draining or energy-consuming issue. They know the tool I mentioned above but are not getting used to utilizing it for their own benefit.
Baby steps to upgrade your life with perfectionism
First, describe the basics. What is perfectionism for you? Afraid of making mistakes, controlling people’s actions and thoughts about you, unreal expectations from yourself, or overdose burdening yourself. A disciple-maker,
What are the fields where you trait as a perfectionist? Maybe you are a leader, and you know that you are perfectionist. Or a person can act like that in the family issues. In photo-shooting, excel charts, painting, dancing, in a healthy lifestyle, car driving, or planning a long trip. Pick your choices, believe there is a very slight possibility to pick one choice.
The next step should come with awareness
You analyzed your perfectionist concept and pattern in which you apply to your life. This awareness will guide you to how it makes you feel about it. Is it only consuming your mental energy, or do you convert it to get the greatest results? If the first choice is valid for you, let me describe why and how to obtain the second one.
Deeply-rooted childhood beliefs: In case of making any mistake, everybody will blame you. Don’t flow with misconceptions. One broken glass will not cause that you cannot drink water life-long.
Over-judgemental to yourself and others: Let’s be honest. If you do not judge people’s mistakes you also find making mistakes as acceptable. Connect with reality. Judges are generally illusions.
Tolerance-full to less important or useless things, intolerance for the significant: Tolerance has a battery-like will. If you tolerate small things, it will be wasted. Do not manipulate yourself, if you feel bothered about anything just express it with kindness.
Now, be now. Take a deep breath and say I want to change …
Everyone’s desire for changing things is different.
For money and financial status, you use your perfectionism for work. Work for yourself with your highest expectations. When you do your business to make your best continually, believe you will get its results. If you feel tired, take one step back. An arrow will go to the furthest point when it twanged.
For self-growth… You are the most valuable investment in your life and keen on your self-education, self-care, and self-discipline. Taking the best educations in your profession is important but the brain needs its authentic foods. Do sport with your best performance, nurture yourself with the best foods, read books about basic human psychology. Now it’s time to take one step forward, be present by adding new things to your past-self.
For love affair… Being a perfectionist will make you and your lover the happiest person in your relation? Not exactly. We are human, fragility and misunderstanding are so natural. Finding common ground is essential. Taste your emotions perfectly, focus on the positive sides more. Make your relationship a perfect place with not the highest expectations but realistic ones.
For adopting every fields every place. Look perfectionism as a tool. You are the pilot to drive you high. Just be aware, awaken, real.
